If your parents are fighting, spending time apart, or behaving differently than usual, you are probably worried about what it means for you and your siblings. Although parents may try to shield children from their marital problems, kids often notice when their parents’ relationship is changing. If you suspect your parents are considering a divorce, here is some information to help you through.
How Children and Teens Can Get Through Their Parents’ Divorce
There can be many good reasons why parents hesitate to tell their children about their problems. They may not want to worry them or distract them from their school work and friends, or they may not be ready to admit that they are having marital issues. If your parents are separating or getting a divorce, here are some things to keep in mind:
- It’s not your fault. No parents have ever separated because of something a child did. No matter what happens, your parents will continue to love you just as they do now.
- Focus on the positive. Divorce doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Although it may seem unthinkable, both parents may be happier after a divorce, which can make for a calmer and happier living environment.
- Be patient. Try to give your parents some space during their separation. Divorce proceedings can take a long time, and you may see one parent more or less than the other. Your parents will need to figure out how to interact with one another as divorced spouses instead of a married couple, and that can take some time.
- Ask direct questions. If you have questions, it is best to talk to your parents directly. Even if it is difficult or awkward for you, they may be glad to have the chance to discuss the divorce with you.
If you are a parent who is separating from your spouse, we encourage you to share these tips with your child or teenager. If you need more information about the requirements for a Rhode Island divorce or have child custody or support questions, contact Kirshenbaum & Kirshenbaum today via our online contact form seen below.